Month: December 2016

13 Dec 2016

“When you have clarity of intention, the Universe conspires with you to make it happen.” – Frederique Frederickson

Clarity of vision is the first step for a goddess in real estate investing (or really anything else she desires).  It’s really the most magical thing for goddesses. Getting that clarity can be one of the hardest things for many goddesses to find though.  

Can you relate to any of these challenges? Are you finding that you’re stuck because you don’t know what you want?

In the real estate investing realm this might look like you have some money to invest but you have no idea what market to look into and what to buy.

Or you don’t have money and while you know you’d like to invest, you don’t know how to get the means to do so.

Or you have some money and you thought you knew what you wanted to do, but it doesn’t seem to be working out and you suspect it’s because the Universe has something better in store for you.  You’d like to be able to catch that vision but you don’t know how.  

If so, I can definitely relate.  This was exactly where I was about a year ago.

My husband and I had been flipping houses in LA.  We thought that was what we wanted to keep doing, but as property values rose it was getting harder and harder to make that business work for us.  We started to look for 4+ unit buildings (thinking a buy and hold strategy that would keep us cash flowing was a better option), but financially we were finding it nearly impossible to find something (a) we could afford and (b) would make us any money even if we could afford it.  Flipping had been our main source of income.  We were stuck and starting to burn through our savings.  We had a complete lack of clarity on what to do and how to get out of our situation.  

I was starting to panic, but then remembered that I had some tools (from my years of being a life and success coach and a perpetual student of positive psychology and personal development).  I got quiet and started to implement them to help me gain clarity on how I wanted to feel and what I wanted to create.

Like that quote above says, when I got clarity of intention, the Universe conspired to make it happen for me.

I was introduced to the perfect person – my now mentor, Robert Helms of the Real Estate Guys, who gave me a whole new way to think about real estate that I’d never thought of before.  He showed me how I could partner with others to create much bigger and better outcomes than I ever thought possible.  Through him I started to learn about real estate syndication and the past 12 months have been incredible.

Instead of the 4-unit building we thought we’d go for, we have ended up syndicating (bringing a group of investors to purchase) 3 buildings and passively investing in the syndications for 3 more buildings.  When the latest deal we are involved in closes in January, we will have over 1000 doors in 5 states!  I’m almost pinching myself, because it’s so amazing.  

But that is the power of clarity.

So how do you get clarity?

There are three main strategies I use.  

1) Focus on how you want to feel. This is a technique that I’ve learned from Danielle LaPorte that has been truly life changing for me.  Instead of focusing so much on what I want to do, be, and have, I focus on how I want to feel.  I think about what are the core desired feelings I have for the coming year and I use those feelings as my compass going forward.

2) Ask your brain the right questions. Our brains are the most powerful computers in existence.  Inputting the right questions into your brain is the most powerful way to get great results in your life.  Most people ask themselves questions that keep them small and limited (“Why me?” vs. “Why not me?”) and they ask questions that might be too small and limiting (“How can I just be comfortable in life?”).  I ask a series of questions that open me up to the highest levels of possible expression in my life.   

3) Enlist your right brain.  Your creativity and intuitive mind will help bring your desires forth with ease and grace.  They are the tools to clarity.  My favorite way to engage my creativity and intuitive mind exercise is through the creation of a Vision Box.  A vision box is like a vision board times 10.  It’s filled with images and objects that represent – and help you manifest – your dream life.


On Wednesday evening we are having a Champagne and Clarity Virtual Holiday Party where Denise and I will more fully describe our strategies for getting clarity and creating outstanding results.  We will take you through some exercises so that you can get put these steps into immediate action, and we will make vision boxes together.

For our Vision Box exercise you’ll need:

• a shoe box

• a stack of magazines you can cut up

• scissors

• paste or tape

• any crafting/scrap booking supplies you desire

The Vision Box Prep Worksheet.  Register for the Champagne and Clarity Holiday Party to make sure you get your worksheet. You will want to fill it out before the Champagne and Clarity Party.

These exercises are not real estate specific.  They will help you gain immense clarity for any area of your life.

These are the same tools that helped me lose 35 lbs last year.

During our virtual party we will also help you bust through the myths that most people believe.  These are the myths that keep them stuck with the same problems year after year.

These old world myths say:

Myth: Make a long list of goals and make sure they’re S.M.A.R.T.

“People are remarkably bad at remembering long lists of goals. I learned this at a professional level when trying to get my high-performance coaching clients to stay on track; the longer their lists of to-dos and goals, the more overwhelmed and off-track they got. Clarity comes with simplicity.” ~ Brendon Burchard

The goddess way is to to simplify and get to the essence of what you want and how you want to feel. No long lists and no, no, no S.M.A.R.T. goals

Myth: Clarity means knowing every step you need to take to get you from A to B.

“Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” ~Martin Luther King, Jr.

The goddess way is to find clarity in how you want to feel, and to be flexible as you follow the path.  The goddess way is to know that the journey will surprise and delight you if you let it.  

Myth: Look at what other successful people around you are doing and follow their path.

“Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart.  Who looks inside dreams.  Who looks inside awakens.” ~Carl Jung

The goddess way is to tune into your intuitive guidance about what a success path looks and feels like for YOU.  

Myth: Getting clarity on your goals is hard work.  Then getting your goals accomplished is even harder work.  

“Pleasure gives you clarity, it refreshes and rejuvenates, it keeps you ahead of the curve. Pleasure sends you on wonderful journeys, and you always arrive at your destination ahead of schedule. When you don’t prioritize pleasure, you end up arriving in places you never intended to go.” ~Regena Thomashauer

The goddess way is to use pleasure and sisterhood to find clarity and success.  Goddesses know that if it feels like too much of a slog, you’re doing something wrong.

So join us this Wednesday, December 14 at 6:00 p.m. for our Clarity and Champagne Holiday Party.  You bring the champagne and crafting supplies, we’ll help bring the clarity.

07 Dec 2016

The Biggest Lie About Credit Card Debt

I help women understand money so they experience the benefits of having 6-figure net worth or more in their lifetime.

Have you ever wondered how much money it takes to get and remain debt free?

Do you feel like: the more you make, the more you spend, and the bigger your debt gets?

Is retail therapy your default method of making yourself feel better?

Does it feel like all you have to show for this is a bunch of stuff that you sometimes look at and think “Why was I so anxious to have these $300 boots that I’m now giving away?”

Trust me I’ve been there.

In fact I had a serious problem spending money on throw-away clothing and fashion that I would tire of after a few wears. Especially living in a city like NYC, which at times can feel like a giant mall.

In the early days of my business I wish I could say I kept a tight rein on this tendency, but in fact it became worse. And to top it off I was $8,000 in debt. I knew I had to get my spending under control and pay down my debt.

The first thing I did was get my attitude right. I had to find a way to simultaneously be grateful for my credit card debt and satisfied with what I already had. One technique that helped me get into the right head space is creating “radical gratitude”

After I got my mindset right…

The next steps were:

1. I STOPPED USING CREDIT CARDS. Seriously I cut cards up, kept them in ice, etc. Anything to keep me from using them

2. I kept a notebook of everything I spent each day.

3. I monitored my expenses on mint on a daily basis.

4. I created a spending plan based on my values (this was the key to not feeling deprived.)

5. I indulged my retail therapy urges, but on a much smaller scale. You’d be surprised how much a $1 rock t-shirt at a thrift store or a new lip gloss
from Sephora can do the trick without blowing your budget.

6. I used the extra money I was saving to pay my smallest balances first. This was key because I needed to be able to see results and get the
satisfaction of paying off a card.

I thought I would feel deprived or strictly budgeted doing these steps, but instead I learned to rewire my brain. I began to feel happy with one new necklace instead of three. Two years later I had paid off all my credit cards and got into the habit of not carrying a balance.
During this process here’s some surprising things I found out:

1. It’s not what you make, it’s what you keep. Trite, but definitely true.

2. Forget about interest rates. If you were really afraid of interests rates you wouldn’t carry a balance at all. Pay the smallest balances first. It gives
you the satisfaction to keep going. Remember when we feel good, we do good.

3. Six figures will not save you. You have to learn good spending and saving habits no matter what you make or you will always live beyond your
means (yep, even if you win the lottery.)

02 Dec 2016

How to Jump into 2017 Like a Real Estate Investing Goddess Boss

Not much happens in the real estate investment world in this period between Thanksgiving and New Years.
After Thanksgiving, most sellers will wait until mid-January to put their properties on the market. Many of the insurers, lenders, contractors, lawyers. etc. go on their holiday vacations, so the timelines for closing deals and doing rehab get slowed waaaaay down. It’s a sleepy time for deals, but there are definitely things you can be doing to make sure that when 2017 hits you’re ready to slay it.
So what can you do to get ready to start making some/more money in real estate next year?

I have three suggestions for you:

1. Get clear on your desires and real estate vision.

The more clarity you have on what you want, the easier it will be to bring it forth. I cannot overstate enough how important this step is. Clarity is rocket fuel for your desires. To assist you in this we will be hosting a free webinar/virtual holiday party on Wednesday, December 14 at 6:00 PST/9:00 EST designed to get your life and real estate vision crystal clear for the new year. It will be the day after the Full Moon – a perfect time in the cycle for getting clarity. Save the date! Registration information coming soon.

2. Get your education on.

Many/most people don’t take action because they don’t know what to do. Lack of knowledge/clear steps leads to paralysis. During this interim period, you’re in the perfect time and place to increase your learning so you can take educated actions in the new year. If you’re feeling lost or stuck we have two powerful programs to help you get educated and moving. First, we have the Wealth Builder’s Monthly Membership Program. This is our awesome online community filled with all sorts of resources to get you started and educated about real estate investing. And every month there will be new content all geared to get you successfully invested and making money in real estate. We are officially launching on January 1, so we have a special pre-launch price available now that is expiring soon. Click here to join and and sign up with this special pricing. ( Second, for those who are a bit more seasoned and ready to play at truly epic levels – we have the Bad Ass Mastermind. It’s a group for those who want personalized attention, access to the collective wisdom of a bunch of supremely amazing real estate investing goddesses, and are ready to make quantum leaps in real estate. Entry into that group is by application and interview only. If this is speaking to you and you feel like you’re ready to jump into your bad assness, click here for the application (

3. Get Your Pleasure On.

If clarity is rocket fuel, pleasure is motor oil. It’s essential for lubricating the process and making things flow to you with more ease. This time of the year can be super stressful! It’s important to get yourself on a pleasure diet. So how do you go on a pleasure diet? It’s just 2 easy steps. First, make a list of 31+ things that make you feel pleasured and happy – anything from a luxurious bubble bath, to a massage, to great sex, to a hike, to a skiing, to decorating your Christmas tree, to a steaming cup of Starbucks eggnog latte, etc. Second, do at least one pleasurable thing per day. If you want to make it even more powerful post on the private Real Estate Investor Goddesses Facebook group what pleasurable activity you’re doing that day. Let’s cheer each other on in pleasure! If you’re not yet in the private group – you can join us by filling out this brief survey here ( .

Have an amazing and pleasurable week!