"Everything I want is on the other side of my fear."

― Monick Halm.

When I was in middle school, I heard this quote from FDR that changed my life: “The only thing to fear is fear itself.”

I really took that to heart and decided to do things that scared me as often as I could (other than things that would kill me, of course). I didn’t want my fear to determine what I could and could not do.

So I developed a practice of really exercising my fear and courage muscles. Instead of walking away from things that scared me, I dove in.

In that journey, I've found that everything I want is on the other side of my fear. Some things scare me all the time, but I'm so comfortable with that feeling now, because of how often I exercise my courage muscles, that I'm like- "bring it!"

Launching a virtual event scared me, but I did it anyway. Starting an Investor Club scared me, but I did it anyway. Being interviewed on tv and big podcasts scares me, but I do it anyway. I have...

One of the 3 most valuable lessons I've learned in my career as a real estate investor came from my mentor - Robert Helms. He always says that we need to "build relationships for life."

He taught me that when you approach people with a "relationships for life" philosophy, you are not just trying to get that person to do one deal with you, but you want to build a strong long-lasting relationship with that person, keep working together, and hopefully also become friends.

I have taken that advice to heart, and I always seek to build strong relationships with everyone who can bring value to my life and my business.

So how do you get into these relationships? Here are three steps to follow to establish strong business relationships:

1) Reach Out To Those Who Are Already In Your Circle of Influence

You are probably already connected to tons of great people -- likely far more than you think.

First, pull out a pad of paper and a pen and start to think about potential team...

There are several studies that highlight how women are biologically wired to be around other women.

One of nature’s “feel good” hormones - Oxytocin, the “bonding hormone”, is released in women’s brains in 3 instances: during sex, during breastfeeding, and when women are in groups of other women.

Our brain dumps oxytocin to tell us when something is good for us. It feels good so we will repeat it. Nature has us wired to bond with our lovers, our babies, and other women.

In a UCLA study, scientists found that when stressed, men tended to go off alone or react aggressively (“fight or flight”). Women, on the other hand, tend to their young or gather together to commiserate, cook, and be with others, usually other women (“tend and befriend”).

For women, getting together with other women is one of the healthiest and most effective forms of stress relief. It feels particularly good because of all that oxytocin that is...

"Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough."

― Oprah.

I am so thankful for each and every one of you for being a part of this online community. REI Goddesses would not be what it is today without the love, support and dedication from each of you. So, today, I am giving thanks for you.

Depending on your priorities, wealth can mean something different to each of us. However, when it comes to finances, wealth, for me, has only one definition, and it's not necessarily about having tons of money, but about having financial security and comfort.

In 2008 I was let go from my fancy lawyer job, I had a newborn AND the economy tanked. My husband, who was now the sole breadwinner, experienced hardship as his graphic design business income decreased by 90%.

I remember feeling so afraid and uneasy during that time of my life. We'd just had a new baby, I didn't have a job, and the economy was in shambles. Luckily, the two rental properties we had invested in a few years back were still providing us financial income, and during that year of hardship, they were truly what kept our roof over our head.

This made me realize the importance of finding real wealth- that doesn’t mean being so rich that you are unaffected by what’s going on in the world. It means...

Have you noticed that women and men are different? We are different on more than just a chromosomal level. Women are different in how they best work, deal with stress, learn, and invest.

The key to successfully investing as a woman is to incorporate the womanly elements and tap into the Goddess Secret Sauce. The Goddess Secret Sauce invites in magic and miracles.

I believe in the power we have as women. And we can tap into that power to invite in what we desire with the 4 factors of the Goddess Secret Sauce: Pleasure, Intuition, Mindset and Sisterhood.

When people ask how we found our apartment buildings in Albuquerque (and managed a quantum leap in one year of investing), I sometimes give a more complicated answer than what happened. I’ll talk about how we assessed the market and built the team, but that’s not quite an honest answer.

The honest answer is that I set an intention and then was completely guided to it. As if by magic, we met a woman at a networking event...

Hey Goddesses! 

Starting this Friday, November 27 we are going to be doing a 30-day pleasure challenge in the Real Estate Investor Goddesses (Private Community) Facebook Group! [If you're not there yet, you can join us here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/REIGPrivateCommunity 

The holidays are SUPPOSED to be pleasurable, but they're often a time of stress. When you add in COVID-19, social distancing, politics, and all the other stressors of 2020, this is a year that could quickly take you spiraling down.

So what's a goddess to do? Grab at least one daily dose of pleasure! Pleasure is the first ingredient in the goddess secret sauce, and it will bring you and everyone around you higher

I've created a 30-day challenge to help us dive deep into pleasure during this upcoming holiday season. We will go from Friday, November 27 until December 25 (Christmas Day). Do you want to join me?

How will the Pleasure challenge work?

First, make sure that you've joined us on Many...

"Don't let anyone convince you that your dream, your vision to be an entrepreneur, is something that you shouldn't do. What often happens is that people who are well-meaning, who really care for us, are afraid for us and talk us out of it."

― Cathy Hughes.

Today’s motivational quote is from an incredible woman- Cathy Hughes. And if this quote weren’t inspiration enough, here is a little bit more about Cathy’s story:

Cathy Hughes is a dynamic, media pioneer who demonstrates the power of one – one woman, one vision, one company – Urban One, formerly known as Radio One. As Founder and Chairperson of Urban One, Inc., the largest African-American owned and operated broadcast company in the nation, Hughes’ unprecedented career has spawned a multi-media conglomerate that generates original content across the spectrum of radio, television, and digital media.

In 1999, Cathy Hughes became the first African-American woman to chair a publicly held corporation,...

 As women, we use to think that we can do it all, that we need to have everything perfect, and that's ok. Those are qualities of our personality that help us be one step ahead of life’s everyday challenges. But, when it comes to investing, some of the things that most of the time work in our favor, may become mistakes that can cost us valuable time and money.

Here you have a list of the most common mistakes women make in real estate investment:

Mistake #1: Waiting to have everything "perfect" before you start investing. 

One of the biggest mistakes we see women make in real estate investing (before they even begin) is waiting for the “perfect” time to begin. This is a HUGE mistake because as badass women who juggle 100 things at once. there will never be a perfect time. There will never be a perfect property, a perfect bank account balance, a perfect sign from the universe... and you waiting is only you getting in the way of your own...

"I always did something, I was a little not ready to do. I think that's how you grow. When there is that moment of 'Wow, I'm not really sure I can do this', and you push through those moments, that's when you have a breakthrough." 

― Marissa Mayer.

Growth can be scary. Growth can be unpredictable. Growth can be difficult. BUT that’s what makes the growth life-changing.

Don’t be scared of taking the leap because you feel like you’re “not ready.” Sometimes taking the leap is exactly what you needed to do to GET ready!

Thank you, Marissa Mayer, for this lovely inspiration today!